Monthly musings, inspiration and support for an empowered motherhood
Stuck in a spiral moment
When we’re in the middle of a spiral moment, whether in motherhood, our careers or just life in general, that contraction we experience - the bit where we convince ourselves we’re going backwards, the bit where we judge ourselves for being stuck or for not knowing better this time – that is what propels us forwards.
Two things can be true
I want to talk about something that I haven’t always felt comfortable admitting. Truth be told, sometimes the gritty reality of motherhood feels so disappointing compared to the pastel-hued expectations I held before I became a mother.
But while having mixed emotions about most things in life seems completely rational, for some reason admitting that we have conflicting emotions about motherhood feels provocative, something to push down – a dirty secret to keep hidden.
Motherhood’s Great Expectations
Modern motherhood’s great expectations are leaving women feeling broken when they experience something else - shock, fear, doubt, anger, grief, loneliness, resentment - alongside the mandated joy and wonder.
Why I set intentions not resolutions
Are you someone who always sets New Year's resolutions but eventually finds it hard to keep them? Do you end up feeling disappointed and guilty because you couldn't achieve them? I understand how you feel. Traditional resolutions can often make us focus on what we think we should be doing instead of what truly matters to us.
Feel like you’re underachieving in motherhood? This might be why
Growing up, we were told that we could be anything we wanted to be if we set our minds to it. We grew accustomed to setting goals and then going out to smash them.
However, then we became mothers, and everything changed. Here are some reasons why the transition into motherhood can feel so uncomfortable for women who are used to achieving.
Ghosted: when three-quarters of mamas feel invisible, isn’t it time we admitted we have a problem?
A recent campaign by the motherhood app Peanut revealed that 72% of UK mothers feel invisible, and a whopping 93% feel underappreciated, unacknowledged, or unseen.
These stats highlight the alarming reality of modern-day motherhood, and it’s high time we acknowledge that we have a problem.
Embracing imperfection: the empowering truth you need to hear
How many times do you question whether you are good enough?
Do you ever feel like you're constantly striving to do more, give more, and be more? Not just as a mother, but across all the many roles you play in your life. But let's be honest, does enough ever really feel like enough?
Finding fulfilment on the emotional rollercoaster of motherhood
Feeling unsatisfied with motherhood is a familiar experience for a lot of women. The demands of juggling work, parenting and our own needs can leave us feeling stretched to our limits, so it's understandable to question if there's more to this journey than mere survival sometimes.
Breaking up with Superwoman
We’ve been led to believe that to be a strong, successful woman and mother, is to be a superhero. To do all of the things - perfectly - and to be in control, and unemotional whilst doing them.
But the truth is, we’ve forgotten that there is another definition of strength.
The perfect mother myth: why it’s time to let it go
In an era when women are supposed to be, and feel, more liberated than ever before, modern-day motherhood can be unforgivingly perfectionist.
For the sake of mothers everywhere, it's time to let go of the myth and start embracing the real-life experiences of mothers - the good, the bad and the ugly.
Lessons from my daughter: 5 life skills my pre-schooler is helping me relearn.
We spend so much of our time as parents in teaching mode. Thinking (and worrying) about the lessons, values, and behaviours we are consciously and sub-consciously passing down to our children. But we often fail to see the valuable life lessons that we can pick up from them.