Monthly musings, inspiration and support for an empowered motherhood
Some of my favourite Matrescence resources
If you’re curious to find out more about matrescence, here are some of my favourite resources to explore.
Breaking up with Superwoman
We’ve been led to believe that to be a strong, successful woman and mother, is to be a superhero. To do all of the things - perfectly - and to be in control, and unemotional whilst doing them.
But the truth is, we’ve forgotten that there is another definition of strength.
The perfect mother myth: why it’s time to let it go
In an era when women are supposed to be, and feel, more liberated than ever before, modern-day motherhood can be unforgivingly perfectionist.
For the sake of mothers everywhere, it's time to let go of the myth and start embracing the real-life experiences of mothers - the good, the bad and the ugly.
Lessons from my daughter: 5 life skills my pre-schooler is helping me relearn.
We spend so much of our time as parents in teaching mode. Thinking (and worrying) about the lessons, values, and behaviours we are consciously and sub-consciously passing down to our children. But we often fail to see the valuable life lessons that we can pick up from them.
Maternal ambivalence: the two truths of motherhood
While more women may feel comfortable saying that motherhood is hard, saying that you don’t always enjoy it, or dare I say it, sometimes hate it, still feels taboo.
Ambivalence is that feeling of being pulled in opposite directions by strong emotions, needs, values or passions. It’s being conflicted and something that I believe should be talked about more openly.
Authenticity over confidence
Confidence. It’s something we all struggle with at some stage, particularly as women and mothers.
We want to feel less anxious, more self-assured, and certain in our choices. We want to appear calm, in control, like we have our act together. We may believe that being more confident will lead to more success, happiness, and fulfilment.
But is confidence really the answer?
The courage to redefine motherhood
It is no secret that the historical narrative around motherhood has self-sacrifice at its core. For centuries “good mothers” have been portrayed as selfless, nurturing women who are expected to forgo their own needs, desires, and dreams for the sake of their families.
It is time to rewrite the narrative and take ownership of what motherhood means for women as individuals.
Lost in the maze of motherhood
I often describe the early years of motherhood as a maze. A fun adventure with twists and turns, but also with lots of potential for losing your way, conflicting choices and regularly running into dead ends.
"I feel lost since becoming a mum” is one of the most common things women say to me when we speak.
5 tips to shake off mum guilt
We’ve all had it, that nagging feeling that we’re not doing it right, or that we should be doing more of this, or less of that.
#mumguilt seems so inherently woven into the lexicon of modern motherhood that we just accept it as part of the job description.
Dropping the mask of motherhood
Most people who knew me during early motherhood – even my nearest and dearest – saw this version of me: smiley, nails done, baby in a cute outfit, loving mum life.
Why do we put up this Mask of Motherhood? What stops us from showing our true experience?
Stop trying to “bounce back” and embrace growing forward
It’s no secret that our culture actively rewards mothers for how quickly they can ‘bounce back’ into their old bodies, jeans, jobs and lifestyles.
Here are 3 reasons why I believe it's time to start reframing what motherhood looks like and to question whether bouncing back is a goal we really want to subscribe to.
Matrescence: one word with the power to transform motherhood
Matrescence is a relatively new way of describing the identity shift a woman goes through when she becomes a mother.
It captures the physical, psychological, emotional, and social transformation she experiences; a transformation that is slow, always evolving, and one that never truly ends.