I Loved Being a Mama—So Why Couldn’t I Love Myself?

Identity & MotherhoodPersonal GrowthSelf-LoveRediscovery

14 Feb

Written By Katrina Court

Valentine’s Day is all about love—celebrating the people who matter most to us.

But what about you?

Because when I became a mama, loving my baby came easily. But loving myself? That was a different story.

It wasn’t the sleepless nights, the feeding struggles, or even the colic that hit me hardest.

Honestly? It wasn’t even that my life had been turned upside down.

I loved being a mum. I loved my daughter more than I ever thought possible.

But… there was something else. Something I wasn’t prepared for.

I didn’t recognise myself. At all.

This version of me? She wasn’t me anymore. She was anxious. She was frumpy. She was full of doubt. She was angry. And oh my god, she was angry at everything.

I didn’t know how to like her. How could I? She wasn’t the woman I knew.

Everything that made me feel like me? Gone. Poof. Vanished.

I felt like I was walking in someone else’s shoes—and they didn’t fit. And that was terrifying. Because before becoming a mama, I thought I knew exactly who I was.

I had a career I was proud of. I was independent, ambitious, competent. I knew where I was going. And then suddenly? I didn’t.

That shook me to my core. Because if I wasn’t her anymore… then who the hell was I?

Rediscovering Who I Am Beyond Motherhood

That question is exactly why I do the work I do now.

As I untangled my own identity and retrained as a coach, I realised I wasn’t alone—so many mamas were silently going through the same thing, stumbling through this no-man’s-land between their old self and the woman they were becoming.

But here’s the thing: This isn’t just a stage to survive. It’s an opportunity to reconnect with who you are and embrace the evolved woman you’re becoming.

You Get to Shape What Happens Next

That’s what I help you do. I’ve been through this myself, and now I support other women as they step into their evolved selves and create a life that feels true to them—one that honours who they’re becoming, not just who they were before.

So, if you’re in that messy, overwhelming “I don’t recognise myself” space? I see you. This sh!t is hard, but you’re stronger than you realise. And you get to shape what happens next.

And when you’re ready, I’m here to help you fall in love with the woman inside who’s been waiting for you all along.